Yearly Archives:2019

An Evening for Women Who Wine

Women Who Wine“When women speak from their hearts, magic happens and the world changes.” 
– Patricia Boswell

Join us for an event that just may make magic happen!

When: Thursday, April 25, 2019, 6:00 – 8:00pm

Where: 3rd Street Gallery
220 3rd Street, Carnegie PA  15106

Cost: Complimentary for you and a guest

Register: Call 412-341-2888 ext.305 or email us.

 

About our Featured Speaker

Patricia Boswell is a National Board Certified Counselor with 38 years of experience specializing in women’s emotional wellness and empowerment. She invites you to join her Facebook group of like hearted women – My Second Marriage Was to Myself…Say I Do to You. This evening we will discuss the 5 major obstacles to self-commitment experienced by most women. We will also explore daily techniques to support you choosing “YOU!” Treating yourself as well as you treat others is essential. The more you love yourself, the more love you have to offer others. 

About The Event Location

3rd Street Gallery is a fine art space dedicated to providing quality and original art through the promotion of local, national, and international artists. 3rd Street Gallery provides a forum for artists, collectors, and the public to experience painting, works on paper, jewelry, and pottery.

Space is Limited, so Register today! Don’t miss this special Women Who Wine.

Surviving Valentine’s Day

“Follow your heart but take your brain with you.” – Alfred Adler

It seems we have barely finished taking down the Christmas decorations, when in every store Valentines appear. And, although Valentine’s Day should be something to look forward to in the doldrums of the winter; for many women, Valentine’s Day can bring us into the cold reality of defining us in terms of our relationships… or lack thereof.

For those of us over 50 years of age, we can remember how in elementary school, we would spend days decorating that shoe box, writing out Valentine cards and choosing the best card for that “someone special”; only to watch that “someone special” walk past our desk to give his “someone special” card to that too adorable, too sweet, “teacher’s pet” little girl, who wouldn’t have much as given him the time of day.

She would take the card and put it in her box with the other 15 “someone special’ cards she got that day. By the end of the school day, the amount and size and shape of the cards we received defined us as popular… or not; in the right clique…or not; pretty… or not … and so on.

And somehow 20, 30, 40 years later, nothing has changed.

Unless our current relationship is with our prince charming, our soul mate, our life partner, our spouse; or unless we are the adult version of the “teacher’s pet”, Valentine’s Day defines us as single, divorced, widowed; unhappily attached; sadly attached; in the wrong relationship with the wrong person; or living with the person who just will never think to buy us flowers and candy, but they will get our car washed. No matter what, we will define ourselves in terms of our relationship on that day. This holiday can attack self-esteem, produce anxiety, create confusion over lifestyles and cause a sense of inadequacy for women who are normally intelligent, successful, self-confident and self-assured.

The whole reason for this is that we all have the need to be loved. And thanks to Cinderella and “Pretty Woman” Julia Roberts, we believe that romantic love is the ultimate form of love. And Valentine’s Day is all about romantic love.

So how do you survive this if you are not currently in a romantically loving relationship? You can begin by focusing on who you love and who loves you. Even if this is your kid sister or your mom, you can be reassured that you are a lovable person. Hang out with your mom. Take your little sister shopping. Spend some time being grateful for who you are and what is special about you. These thoughts will reassure you and remind you of your self-worth while restoring your self- esteem. Plan to spend February revisiting the goals you had set for yourself going into the new year. Concentrate on the things that are important to you. Do something special for yourself. Go to a spa, get a professional pedicure, or get a massage. Send Valentine’s cards to everyone you know. You will feel good for doing it and they will feel great for receiving it. And for someone, this may be the only card they get. Write on each card, “For Someone Special”. Prepare your favorite dinner, have a glass of wine and watch your favorite movie. Use this time to become the kind of person you would love or the person you would love to be. Use the day to do something you’ve always wanted to do.

Create a special memory. Valentine’s Day will come and go. Memories can last forever.