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You are the Plan

Discover Your WhyFinding Your Purpose and Living for It: You Are the Plan

No matter what a person’s spiritual beliefs, I doubt that anyone doesn’t recognize they were born for a reason. That belief alone should make us all realize that we are persons of worth, having a unique contribution to make to the world.  The goal is to live life and to live it abundantly.

Abundant Living with Many Life Roles

Life itself means making room for many things such as developing abilities while caring for a family—and while being a mate, a partner, a friend, working a job, going to school, or building a career.  Abundant living means being the best “you” that you can be.

Celebrating Your Ability

Figure out what gives you satisfaction, energy, and joy, and build those things into your life, whether the people around you want to come along for the ride or not.This requires that even as part of a relationship you make your desires and goals a priority. Celebrate and develop your unique talents and abilities. If you want to get an education, make a plan to accomplish the goal in manageable steps. If you want to pursue an athletic challenge, make time in your schedule to do so. If you are passionate about a specific cause, volunteer your time and talents to that cause. Figure out what gives you satisfaction, energy, and joy, and build those things into your life, whether the people around you want to come along for the ride or not. If you minimize yourself or your desires, you cheat yourself as well as the world around you. Living abundantly means you create your own definition of quality of life—without looking to others for approval.  

It’s Your Plan

So, it is all about you. It’s all about your plans.  Not someone else’s plan for you.  Not your partner, your sibling, your teacher, your spouse, your friend.  Not anyone should dictate the life you want to lead.

This Book Helps Get You Started

Although my book, A Man is Not a Plan, focuses on independence for women, the book can be a guide for both men and women, as being an independent person should be a goal for anyone. Consider also sharing the book with a friend, a daughter, someone who is newly married, recently got engaged, found their first job, just graduated from school. Learning some new life strategies should be a continuing life goal for us all.

– Mary Grace Musuneggi

A Life Lesson Learned: But For The Grace of God

A few months ago my Significant Other and I found ourselves stranded in the Greyhound bus station in Cleveland.  Nothing we planned for sure; but part of a bizarre situation.

While we waited, and waited and waited to be on our way, a woman, who I perceived was homeless, caught my eye. She looked like she was in her late 60’s, but then she could have been younger and her life situation had taken a toll on her physical appearance. She had a pushcart filled with what was probably her sole possessions. For the three hours we were there she walked the perimeter of the waiting room over and over again. Every so often she would sit down on a bench, but within two to three minutes she was up walking again.

She seemed to be well known by the workers at the station who called her by name, so I gathered that this was a place she frequented. Probably on the cold and snowy days in  Cleveland, this was her refuge from being out on the street.

And then it dawned on me that maybe the walking and the very short pauses to sit on the bench were part of a routine. Maybe if she didn’t keep moving or she sat too long, she would have to leave the shelter of the bus station? Maybe she would be considered loitering if she didn’t keep moving?

Certainly a sad situation.  Would this be the life that she would continue to live? Walking the perimeter of the bus station.  Would this be the only plans for her days? And what happened to bring her to this stage of her life. Was it bad choices, or bad karma, or bad circumstances beyond her control? I heard myself saying, “But for the grace of God, go I”.

Life happens to us all.  Hopefully never to the point that we find ourselves homeless trying to survive in the Cleveland Greyhound bus station. But every day brings circumstance. When these are good, we need to be grateful. When not so good we need to make a choice. Do we accept them, surrender to them, or choose to overcome them?  It all comes down to choice.

When we finally left the bus station, I wanted to hope that the woman would find a way to make different choices if that is what brought her there, or find the help that she needed that would change her circumstances.

I was certainly grateful we were leaving Cleveland. I was also grateful that God had blessed me with the ability and the means to do that.

Self Defense Class Recap

“Nothing good happens in a bar at 2am.”

Our self defense teacher, David L. Holzer, quoted the Super Bowl winning coach Chuck Noll at our June 29 “Up Against the Wall” event. He went on to say that nothing good happens in an alley or elsewhere when we’re not aware and alert. 

Every woman needs to consider their safety. Contact David about one of his upcoming training classes. 

Who Should Consider a Self Defense Class?

  • Women who travel to work alone
  • College students
  • Women who walk or jog in parks
  • Anyone who finds themselves alone or in unfamiliar circumstances

Contact David to learn more. 

Up against the wall what would you do...