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Spring – Time to Learn Some New Habits

Springtime is a time of renewal, and that should be true of your self-care. Read some ideas about ways to get yourself motivated and moving this spring. We found a great article that includes nine fun and easy ways to feel better and get more done! They include:

  1. Start your spring cleaning (and keep it up)
  2. Go to bed and wake up early
  3. Start taking morning walks
  4. Designate one day a week to self-care
  5. Minimize your constant phone checking
  6. Make time to read every day
  7. Journal your thoughts
  8. Exercise and get your body moving
  9. Drink more water

Read the full article from Fracture here: https://blog.fractureme.com/healthy-habits-renew-yourself-this-spring/

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Surviving Valentine’s Day 2024

heart graphic with words Love and Surviving Valentine's Day“Follow your heart but take your brain with you.” – Alfred Adler

It seems we have barely finished taking down the Christmas decorations, when in every store Valentines appear. And, although Valentine’s Day should be something to look forward to in the doldrums of the winter; for many women, Valentine’s Day can bring us into the cold reality of defining us in terms of our relationships… or lack thereof.

For those of us over 50 years of age, we can remember how in elementary school, we would spend days decorating a shoe box, writing out Valentine cards and choosing the best card for that “someone special”; only to watch that “someone special” walk past our desk to give his “someone special” card to that too adorable, too sweet, “teacher’s pet” little girl, who wouldn’t have much as given him the time of day.

She would take the card and put it in her box with the other 15 “someone special’ cards she got that day. By the end of the school day, the amount and size and shape of the cards we received defined us as popular… or not; in the right clique…or not; pretty… or not … and so on.

And somehow 20, 30, 40 years later, nothing has changed.

Unless our current relationship is with our prince charming, our soul mate, our life partner, our spouse; or unless we are the adult version of the “teacher’s pet”, Valentine’s Day defines us as single, divorced, widowed; unhappily attached; sadly unattached; in the wrong relationship with the wrong person; or living with the person who just will never think to buy us flowers and candy, but they will get our car washed. No matter what, we will define ourselves in terms of our relationship on that day.

This holiday can attack self-esteem, produce anxiety, create confusion over lifestyles and cause a sense of inadequacy for women who are normally intelligent, successful, self-confident, and self-assured.

The whole reason for this is that we all have the need to be loved. And thanks to Cinderella and “Pretty Woman” Julia Roberts, we believe that romantic love is the ultimate form of love. And Valentine’s Day is all about romantic love.

So how do you survive this if you are not currently in a romantically loving relationship? You can begin by focusing on who you love and who loves you. Even if this is your kid sister or your mom, you can be reassured that you are a lovable person. Hang out with your mom. Take your little sister shopping. Spend some time being grateful for who you are and what is special about you. These thoughts will reassure you and remind you of your self-worth while restoring your self-esteem.

Plan to spend February revisiting the goals you had set for yourself going into the new year. Concentrate on the things that are important to you. Do something special for yourself. Go to a spa, get a professional pedicure, or get a massage.

Send Valentine’s cards to everyone you know. You will feel good for doing it and they will feel great for receiving it. And for someone, this may be the only card they get. Write on each card, “For Someone Special”. Prepare your favorite dinner, have a glass of wine and watch your favorite movie. Use this time to become the kind of person you would love or the person you would love to be. Use the day to do something you’ve always wanted to do.

Losing That Special One

A few months ago, I lost the “Love of My Life”. He made every day special for me but did many romantic things on Valentine’s Day. Because I know I will feel a sense of loss, I have already begun to think about something positive to do. It may only be a glass of wine, a hot bath and early to bed; but the day will not go by without me revisiting the wonderful adventures we had together over 23 years.

During this past year I have known too many women who have also lost their loves, by choice or by chance. And I wish them whatever will make Valentine’s Day a positive day for them; as I hope every day will be.

Use the day to create a special memory. Valentine’s Day will come and go. Memories will last forever.

– Mary Grace Musuneggi